 Surviving
 The healing process
Benefits of dealing with grief
Acquired defences
Forms of denial
The road to recovery
Try to remember
Confronting your perpetrator
Getting help and support
ASCA
Counselling and therapy
Narrative therapy
Somatic trauma therapy
Cognitive behaviour therapy
Psychodynamic therapy
Transactional analysis
Gestalt therapy
Attachment theory
Neuro-linguistic programming
EMDR
Alternative therapies
Tips for promoting safety
Breathwork
Voice dialogue
Reiki
Yoga
Meditation
Sex therapy
Body therapy
Beyond therapy
Spitirual healing
Other help
Expressive arts
Family or origin work
Managing anger
Resolving conflict
Dealing with shame and blame
Dealing with relationships
Self nurturing
Am I in tune with myself?
Tips for being in tune with yourself
Create a list of things that nurture you
Suggestions for ways to nurture yourself
Negative self-scripts and positive self-affirmations
Am I stressed?
Stress prevention
Responding to stress
Having a support network
Some relaxation ideas
Meditation
Breathing techniques
Self-esteem
'Learn to love and nurture yourself'
Feeling suicidal
Signs of depression
Suicide warning signs
What to do if someone is suicidal
Myths about suicide
Reasons why you should not suicide
What to do if you feel suicidal
Contact numbers, websites, books
Taking legal action
I want to take my perpetrator to court
Criminal prosecution
Civil action
Other options
Useful advice about going to court
Recent changes in the law
Being a witness
Restorative justice
Useful contacts, relevant legislation
Help for partners
Help for supporters
Help for everyone
Keeping children safe
Mandatory reporting
Child molestors
Grooming
Keeping children safe on the internet
Survivors' stories
How yoga helped me
Barbara's story
Reflections of a survivor who took her perpetrator to court
My Story, by Wendy Stamp
My Journey, by Christine
My Story by Nicole
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Try to remember
You are not crazy even though at times you may feel as though you are
You deserve to heal from the effects of your abuse
You will not die either in remembering you abuse or in disclosing it
As you remember the details of what happened to you, and release the feelings that accompany them, you might experience suicidal thoughts or a desire to hurt yourself. Please find the support you need to help you through tough times such as these
Whatever happened to you was not your fault - you were a child. The adult is always responsible
Every person you meet is not a perpetrator
The process of denial can be either healthy (as a child to survive) or unhealthy (as an adult when it stops you acknowledging your trauma and moving on from it)
Be prepared to experience body memories and flashbacks as part of the process of addressing the effects of your trauma
The shame you feel should not belong to you. It was imposed on you by those who perpetrated against you
You survived when many didn't - honour that
If you survived the abuse, you can survive the memories
If you were sexually abused and your body responded to the sexual stimulation, you experienced a normal physiological reaction. It does not mean that you wanted to be abused.
At times you will feel bad as you are recovering from the effects of your abuse. It is expected that you will hurt emotionally.
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